The purpose of this post is to acknowledge the fears that paralyze me and attempt to defuse their inherent power. I may not be able to overturn them in the short term, but by writing them down I hope to lessen the impact they have over my psyche. Before you label any of this notions are ridiculous or silly take a moment to example was affects you on a deep personal level. I am not asking for responses. Just consider what keeps you awake at night.
I am afraid that
- I will become on my worst days exactly what I think I am.
- I will never be able to contribute meaningfully to my household.
- My children will be just as emotionally compromised as I am.
- My wife will realize I am not the partner and spouse she deserves.
- In a moment of weakness I will cheat in my marriage.
- I will never have money.
- When a friend truly needs me I intentionally not respond.
- My children will not have enough to eat.
- The people I most care about will eventually realize I am worthless and shun me.
- I am less that other people believe me to be.
- That people will hear the negative thoughts in my head and agree.
- I will push everyone away just to prove that it would eventually happen.
- My passive-aggression will drive a wedge in my relationships with family and friends.
I may add to this list as other ideas float it. The sad fact is that this list will probably grow. These are not concrete fears. Nothing to do with the weather or the economy or geopolitical upheaval. I cannot control that shit. The fears that consume me all originate squarely between my ears.
You will not see any fears related to running on this list. My desire to run my fly in the face of work and personal commitments, however the act of running does not elicit a fear response. Running takes me to my happy place.
I will conclude on this - I am feeling better as a result of types these thoughts out. I began writing this post Friday afternoon and within an hour or two the fog was begin to lift. The reason my writing has been focused on mental health issues of late may be due to a lack of racing. Training is not the same as racing. I have two months to prepare for my next race. Soon...